As their confidence increases, a baby wants to become more independent. When a baby tries to do something, and the outcome they want is different than the outcome they get, they will find a way to express their dissatisfaction through whining.
If they still seem uncomfortable, try some tummy time, as gentle pressure on the belly can help with gas pains. If your baby moans during feedings, they could be suffering from acid reflux. A baby is unable to tell you that they pinched their tiny fingertip in a toy or that their ear is aching — and even if they could, these pains would likely elicit tears anyway.
When all else fails, give your little one extra comfort and healing kisses. If the whining continues or escalates and they seem distressed, consider contacting your pediatrician. While the many wonders of the big and bright world can engage and entertain your mini, they can also be overstimulating. If your sweetheart seems out of sorts, try to calm the chaos. Dim lights, hush the house, and keep things as peaceful as possible.
Infants have shorter sleep cycles, which can cause them to wake more frequently. Ideally, you want your little one to self-soothe and get back to sleep on their own, so wait a few minutes before intervening.
This is a good thing — your prompt attention lets your baby know that they can depend on you. Nevertheless, the whines of an attention-seeking baby can seem never-ending.
You are one person, after all, and your energy and efforts will have to be divided from time to time. Efficiently identifying the issue at hand can allow you to address the cause and put a stop to the whining faster. Furthermore, showing kindness and affection will reinforce your unconditional love. Here are a few ways you can take action when your baby is audibly upset. Go through your mental checklist of common causes listed above.
Is their diaper dirty? Is it lunchtime? Did they miss a nap? Are they bored in the playpen or frustrated with a toy? Using a simple process of deduction will usually help you find the right answer. It might be something totally random getting their goat — babies can be persnickety like that. When whining lasts throughout the day — and it sometimes will — it can be downright maddening for parents. So before you do anything, take a beat and a breath and center yourself.
Keeping your cool is key to modeling good behavior. My trick is to tell him at night that if he doesn't fuss in the morning, then I'll read more than one book to him the next night. For the past week, it's really been working! He reminds me every night that he didn't fuss that morning, and he picks out his books for me to read to him. For the older kids, I give them a value that they can spend — if they want something more expensive, the difference has to come out of their own pocket.
This way when we get to the checkout and they ask for the candy bar that I don't want to buy them, I can say, 'You already got what you wanted. When she starts to whine, we tell her to please continue in the whining chair. By the time she gets up and moves there, she is distracted, and the whining usually stops. That usually works. I started getting the video camera out, and every time he started whining I would record him. This seemed to really irritate him, and he certainly didn't like watching himself later.
I think the threat of the video camera coming out every time he whined stopped him from doing it. Thank goodness! I wonder where it went! Usually she starts to laugh, and the whining is forgotten. Then I make funny faces, and eventually they're laughing at me and have forgotten what they were whining about.
So far it has worked — even in public! That makes him laugh, especially if I pretend to open up my pocket and then have to hold my ears when all the whining comes out! BabyCenter's editorial team is committed to providing the most helpful and trustworthy pregnancy and parenting information in the world. I know experts often say frustration is good for little ones, but my professional opinion is that frustration is misunderstood. If your child is working hard at doing something, he will try and try again, and you certainly don't want to jump in to do it for him.
That deprives him of learning and gives him the message that he is too dumb and incompetent to master that new task himself. But too much frustration is as stressful to your child as it is to you. Is frustration good for you? Of course, if it motivates you to take action to address the issue "I really do have to clean out this closet, I can't find a thing!
So the best way to respond when your son begins to sound "whiney" is to acknowledge his feelings, and let him know you're standing by as backup if he needs you. You might say "You are trying so hard But it keeps falling down That's frustrating. He may, then, be able to master his upset enough to push through and do it himself. The key is that your loving attention helps him to manage his own mounting anxiety -- he sees that you aren't worried about this, and you are right there if he needs you.
But remember that his internal resources will vary from day to day and at different times of the day, just as ours do. If he is begging you for help, there is nothing wrong with stepping in: "I know you did this yourself yesterday. But right now you want my help. Of course, I am always here to help if you want. What if we balance the block this way?
Do you think you can put the next block on? They feel bored. Babies whine when they feel out of sorts and can't figure out what to do with themselves. Why on earth would a baby ever be bored? The job of a toddler is to explore the world!
But because that can mean tearing your house apart, many of us limit toddlers to one room that we know is safe, and try to occupy them with screens so they won't make a mess.
Studies show that babies who watch TV often then have a hard time engaging in self-directed activity, so if he's watching TV at all, cutting it out might well eliminate the whining within a week, once he figures out what else to do with himself.
Some ideas for bored 15 month olds: Remember to rotate his toys. Active kids love a small climbing gym indoors. Anything using water, ice, sand is fascinating for them. If you don't have a yard for a sandbox, you can make your own sand table in a big pan or old baby bathtub. Keep the sand or water contained by keeping the play confined to a small baby pool without the water. Or just put some old towels on the floor with a bucket of water and a bunch of plastic containers of various sizes and maybe some ice cubes if the weather is warm.
Or let him "mop" with a small mop. You may even get a clean kitchen floor out of it! Tape white paper over the entire surface of a coffee table and let him draw.
Finger paints are wonderful but of course require supervision, better yet put him in the high chair and let him finger paint with pudding you can even add food coloring to vanilla. A few large boxes is the best toy ever for this age. There are many more ideas online for sensory play for toddlers. They're pushed beyond what they can handle. Just don't try to squeeze in another errand when he's hungry or tired. Even if he doesn't tantrum, you can be guaranteed that he'll start whining, and why feed that habit?
They are tired. He probably doesn't whine when he's well-rested after a nap. Babies do go through spurts where they need extra sleep, so trying an earlier bedtime -- even laughably early, like pm -- for a couple of nights can show you the difference. They need our attention. In fact, just when we see them walking around and acting like grown people instead of babies, they often go through a clingy period because they feel like we're pushing them to separate and act grown up.
This is always worse if there has been a real separation for instance, Mom went on vacation without Baby, or he started daycare, or a new sibling was born. Bottom line, the more connection we give our kids without their asking, the less likely they are to whine when our attention does need to be divided.
So be pre-emptive. Make sure that your son gets enough of your positive attention unprovoked, especially at the times of day when he is more likely to be whiny, such as the pre-dinner arsenic hour. Anyone who's had to ask a romantic partner "Do you love me? And of course it's particularly important to give attention when he shows the first sign of needing your emotional support, before that quick downhill slide.
Now your child is moving away from crying. They are on the cusp of communication and as you can imagine, that is also frustrating. You can help shorten periods of whining by giving your toddler plenty of opportunities for language to develop.
Words aren't the only way we communicate. Try pairing words with gestures so your child will whine less. Use the sign for "cup" or "toy" or make up your own sign and use it repeatedly with the word when you say it. Nod or shake your head very obviously to indicate what your child might want. If your child already knows yes and no, that makes communication easier. Phrase your questions appropriately so you can figure out what they wants. Also, pretty soon you'll be able to say, "Tell me 'yes' or 'no.
Your baby is now a toddler. This is the trial-and-error period; toddlers try things many different ways and the things that work tend to stick with them. If you consistently give in to whining, it works.
You're sure to get more whining. It's tough, because you don't want to ignore their needs, but you also don't want whining to become their primary way of getting needs met.
Keep working on appropriate communication skills. Offer toys that are at the appropriate developmental level and ease frustration when possible. Watch your own reactions, too, and make sure that you're not just caving in because the whining is getting to you.
When an older child with more developed language skills engages in whining, it should be treated more like a behavior problem and remedied with discipline techniques like ignoring and timeout. Keep modeling appropriate ways to express displeasure with difficult situations and help your child work through their feelings, but don't accept whining as the default way to communicate when things aren't going their way.
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